Last weekend, we had our usual monthly pot-luck. The hosts organized an interesting game, which is similar to "Jodi porutham". It was fun.. there were 6 couples. First, the host couple conducted it for the 5 couples and then one couple conducted it again with fresh set of questions for the other 5 couples.
The questions that were asked were like favorite movie, best friend, fav. dish, pastime, the thing each of us hate to do, fav. actor/actress, pastime, fav. color, fav. place to visit, etc. Surprised that not many got most of them right (especially the second round, which had some tricky questions and where some couples were really off-resonance).
A few points to ponder (or take-home message):
* It is not necessary that those who are long-married know the best about each other. The couple who fared the worst, were in love for 6 years before getting married 7-8 years ago. When the host commented 'you have least love between you', our poor friend had to say 'I used to love her once upon a time !!!'.. Dont know what he exactly meant.
* One should not take the spouse for granted. Getting to know his/her small wishes is always important and it helps iron out so many minor problems that could arise.
* Identifying and knowing what the spouse likes/dislikes the most is not enough.. making sure that he/she gets what he/she likes and gets the least of what he/she dislikes will help.
* Many husbands don't do the house-hold jobs to help the wife.. and they think the wife enjoys doing that. (one said his wife's favorite place to visit is the veg. supermarket and her favorite pastime was cooking.. obviously both were terribly wrong.. His wife's expression when she heard this was "What?????").
PS: Happy Birthday to Kamalhaasan, my favorite filmstar!! (But among WORSHT in relevance to the current post).